Category: Janene Justifiables Published on Tuesday, 12 July 2011 19:58 Written by Janene Ryan Hits: 1442
Q: Mz. Independent: Since so many women stating, “We don’t need a man to do anything.” All independent. Can you tell me why do we even want a man?
Mz. Independent, that sounds like a valid question; and I’m sure thousands, if not millions, of women will agree with you – wholeheartedly. If you ask most women if they need a man I’m sure you’ll get a mixed reaction. Probably half will say yes – because they think they do and the other half will say no – because they think they don’t. But I’m riding will Jilly from Philly in the fact that I NEED YOU (Him)... just my opinion...
Most of the time women don’t want a man because they don’t want the BS he’s going to bring with him. We don’t want the baby-mama-drama (if he has children). We don’t want the can’t-trust-what-he-says (if he has a track record of not being completely honest). We don’t want the roaming eyes. We don’t want the put-everyone-else-before me. We want none of that! But what we do want is a confident man whose favorite words are I-got-this. We want a man that lets me know I’m-number-one in his book although he has other things that need tending to. We do want that strong back that will hold us up when the world and everyone in it feels like the enemy. We do want that heartfelt connection of loving someone and them loving us back. Oh yes, we do want that!
Usually when a woman says she doesn’t want a man it’s because one, she wants a woman – that’s another topic – or two, she can’t mentally, spiritually and/or emotionally handle one in her life – mainly because she’s been hurt in the past.
Now perhaps, Mz. Independent, you were thinking of the Ne-Yo song when you asked this question? But please keep in mind the song is about what is so attractive to a man – meaning, although she can do things for herself, HE wants her in his life. Feel me? Wanting a man has very little – especially in this case – to do with finances or sexual needs. Women can pay their own bills, raise their own children and even “satisfy” themselves.
You asked, “Why do we even want a man?” And my unadulterated answer is simple – because we’re women and we want it all! Just think, if you could have all of the positive attributes in a man named earlier, and you had a coin to flip – heads being “want a man” and tails being “don’t want a man”, what side of the coin do you hope would show its face? After all is said and done the original question is left to be answered: what do YOU want?